Wedding Traditions:
The Reception
Because June is such a popular month for weddings, this post is a follow-up to the one posted by Cynthia Hickey earlier this month.
Because June is such a popular month for weddings, this post is a follow-up to the one posted by Cynthia Hickey earlier this month.
Wedding receptions in form of feasts, small dinners, teas,
breakfasts, luncheons or even balls after an early evening wedding have been
around for centuries. The size of the reception and the food served as well as
the location often signified a family’s place in society. Middle-class families
usually held the reception at the bride’s home or in a church hall. It was
designed as a social event to introduce the married couple to friends and
family after the ceremony.
During the late 19th and into the 20th century, receptions became
so popular that the term reception was applied no matter what type it was or
where it was held. The picture here is of Grover Cleveland's wedding. Guests gathered around the couple to wish them luck and offer their congratulations
The reception can be as simple as cake, punch, coffee, candies or
mints, and nuts. The bride’s bouquet and the attendant’s flowers often decorate
the main table. More elaborate full meals, either served by a wait staff or buffet style,
have become popular in today’s society. These can run into thousands of dollars
depending on type of food and number of guests.
No matter where the reception is held or how food is served, the
star attraction is most often the wedding cake with the groom’s cake a close
second. Traditionally,
wedding cakes were made to bring good luck to all guests and the couple. In
some cases, they are more of a centerpiece to the wedding and are not always served to the guests. A smaller, less decorative cake may sliced, set on
crystal plates and placed on the table for guests to enjoy. The cake on the right is an example of a wedding cake used at a royal wedding in the late 19th century. This is one that was never cut.
The cake has been traditionally
white since the days of Queen Victoria who accentuated the existing symbol of
purity and virginity with her white dress and cake. The flavors today vary from plain white to pineapple, lemon, or orange. The groom’s cake is most
often chocolate although the original groom’s cake was a fruit cake often
soaked in rum then packaged into small boxes to be given to guests as they
left. Today the groom’s cake will most likely depict something that represents
him such as a hobby, career, or other activity. These are pictures of a modern
day groom’s cake.
Groom's college Groom's hobby
of Golf
The cutting of the cake is also based on symbolism. The cake was originally intended to be distributed among the guests by only the bride because consuming the cake would ensure fertility. As weddings grew and the number of guests increased this task became a joint venture, the groom needed to help cut the growing cake and distribute it among their guests. Layers of cakes began to pile up and the icing needed to support the weight of the cake made it very difficult for one person to cut. The groom would assist the bride in this process. Once this tradition began, the bride and groom then began sharing a piece of cake before distributing it to the guests to symbolize their union and their promise to forever provide for each other. This picture was taken at our wedding reception in 1959.
Another tradition is saving the top layer. That began when the couple saved the top layer to use at the christening of their first child which usually took place by the end of the first year of marriage. Now, if the couple desires, they can either keep the original and freeze it for their first anniversary or have the baker make a duplicate of the top layer for their anniversary. Bridesmaids often took home a slice of cake to place beneath their pillow in the tradition that the young man of whom she dreamed that night would be her husband some day.
In the early and mid-20th century, the top layer was often decorated with a small replica of the couple, but that has given way to flowers and other elaborate decorations. I still have the couple that adorned the top of our cake.
What is the most unusual groom's cake you ever seen at a wedding?
Martha Rogers is a free-lance
writer and the author of the Winds Across
the Prairie and Seasons of the Heart
series as well as the novella, Key to Her
Heart in River Walk Christmas and
Not on the Menu in Sugar and Grits. Love Stays True, the first book in her third series, The Homeward Journey, is now available.
She was named Writer of the Year at the Texas Christian Writers Conference in
2009 and is a member of ACFW and writes the weekly Verse of the Week for the
ACFW Loop. In addition to fiction, Martha has contributed to compilations by
Wayne Holmes, Debra White-Smith and Karen O’ Connor as well as various devotion
books. Martha is a frequent speaker for writing workshops and the Texas
Christian Writers Conference. She is a retired teacher and lives in Houston
with her husband, Rex. Their favorite pastime is spending time with their nine grandchildren
and three great-grandchildren.
Hi Martha, your blog brought back so many memories. I saved the top of our wedding cake in the freezer for a year. On our first anniversary, I pulled it out of the freezer to defrost it only to find that it was made out of cardboard!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for an interesting blog.
What a disappointment. :) I didn't get a piece at the reception, so I cut a little bit out of the top one. It was actually cake. I froze the rest, but it tasted like cardboard when I defrosted it for first anniversary. So I guess we got the same results. :) BTW, I'm finally getting around to reading Molly's story in Last Chance Brides. I'm enjoying it on my Nook.
ReplyDeleteHi Martha, We saved the top layer and I was so excited to have it on our first anniversary. Boy, was I shocked when the first bite was taken....Yuk!
ReplyDeleteMy son's groom cake was an armadillo......yes, red with gray icing! That was a first for me!
mauback55 at gmail dot com
I've only seen one groom's cake and I can't remember it being unusual. I did so enjoy your post on weddings of then and now. Certainly today's cakes aren't white anymore! If I were doing my wedding cake again, I'd make it chocolate with chocolate icing! sharon wileygreen1(at)yahoo(dot)com
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